"We took a walk in a park, and it was toward the end of summer -- a gorgeous, beautiful day. and he said he had had a 'schizophrenic break.'" For some couples, that might have been the end.Frese went to the library and read up on schizophrenia.This is in contrast to couples who felt that one spouse in each other couples was driving the friendship and that the other spouse was more an appendage.These particular equally balanced couples also often felt that such relationships could be characterized as emotionally-sharing, that is, both partners felt they could talk openly about feelings with both members of the couple.But even after the hard part is over, it’s never as cut-and-dry as simply saying good-bye. Do you wish them a happy birthday when Facebook aggressively prods you to?In today’s smartphone-centric, Facebook-addicted, Instagram-obsessed world, staying in touch with an ex is a lot easier—and messier. As with all things in love, each situation is individual, says Terri Orbuch, Ph. And, of course, there are some practical reasons to stay in touch with an ex, says Juliana Breines, Ph.The caveat: If one or both of you were romantically interested in each other during the previous friendship, you may (again) have trouble keeping things platonic, Breines says.That’s why it's probably a good idea to wait until you've recovered from the breakup to reestablish a friendship, which could take months or even years, depending on the nature of the split.“It's natural to want to comfort an ex through a breakup if they aren't taking it well,” Breines says.
For this reason, I also believe men try to actually building a friendship with a woman because he doesn’t want to find himself plunging into the dreaded friend zone, and suddenly be seen more as a brother than a potential boyfriend.
Or maybe you want to remain friends with an ex because that’s an easier option than cutting ties abruptly, or because you still feel emotionally attached to them. “If you feel any emotion when you think of your ex—if you’re angry, pining, frustrated, or unsure—that means you’re still connected,” Orbuch says, which signals you have some emotional baggage you need to unpack before you think about reaching out.
Those reasons are exactly why staying in contact with an ex —like totally, 100 percent neutral, an emotional zero on a scale from one to 10—then it may be possible to stay friendly with them in a healthy and functional way, Orbuch says. If there are legitimate reasons to remain cordial (for instance, you have mutual friends, children, or you work at the same company), then by all means be civil toward one another. And if you were friends before, research proves it possible to go back to being friends again—regardless of who broke up with whom.
But the issue this causes is that we are not building strong foundations for relationships.
Friedrich Nietzsche once said: This concept serves to teach us the importance of building a foundation for happiness that stretches beyond intimacy into friendship itself. When dating, we typically only want to show someone our best self.