It Allows you to Compare and Contrast Life’s dating opportunities can be like a smorgasbord where everything looks pretty good—and like a smorgasbord, seeing all the opportunities out in front of you at once allows you to be selective.Imagine being at a buffet where you could see only one item at a time.It Speeds up the Process of Meeting the Right Person Some people go on a first date and, wow, the magic and the sparks are there immediately.But for others, they have to date someone many times, maybe even over weeks or months, to know whether there’s chemistry in the air—and they may need to date several people before they finally feel that “click.” If you immediately exclude all other guys or gals from the moment you have your first lunch date with someone until his or her annoying laugh causes you to bolt two months later, you may have to go through several mini-relationships in a row before you’re done. Going on dates with a few different good candidates around the same time helps you find out fast who’s wrong, without forcing you to wait and wait and wait to find out who’s right.I’m in my early twenties, done with college, finally in the real world, and am trying to see what is out there for dating.
I really didn't want to say, "Yes.", because I didn't want to hurt his feelings.
The new people I do meet are either fellow musicians I interact with at open mic nights or sometimes girls back from where I went to college.
The problem with meeting girls through mutual friends at the college I went to, is that it’s about a two hour commute from where I live now. I went on two dates over the course of a month with one girl.
I just recently went on a first date with a very charming, decent, kind man, who I definitely am interested in.
However, I don't want to move too quickly with him, because I've experienced this "instant attraction" before, and learned that investing too much of myself too soon usually results in me getting hurt terribly.